The veil is usually lifted in one of two moments: the bride’s father lifts it when he presents her to her partner at the end of the aisle, or the groom lifts it after the vows, just before the kiss.
Many brides today lift it themselves, and many skip the blusher entirely and walk in with the veil already back. There is no wrong answer, so decide it at the rehearsal and tell your officiant.
Where the Wedding Veil Comes From
The veil can be traced back to Roman and Greek times when it was a complete head to toe cover. The veil was brightly colored rather than white. Greek brides wore saffron yellow, and Roman brides wore the flammeum, a deep flame colored yellow. Pliny the Elder compared its shade to an egg yolk, and it was dyed with a yellow dye called luteum. The name comes from flamma, meaning flame, because the bride was meant to look like a lit candle.
One purpose was to prevent the groom from seeing the bride. Wearing these bright colors was also said to ward off evil spirits and demons. The Roman flammeum carried a second meaning: it echoed the veil worn by the Flaminica Dialis, a priestess who was not permitted to divorce, so the color was read as an omen of a marriage that would last.
One often repeated story says that because thick veils obscured the bride’s vision, she needed someone to guide her, and that this is where the tradition of the father walking the bride down the aisle began. It is a good story, though historians treat it as folklore rather than settled fact.
Arranged Marriages
Arranged marriages were common in those times, and many times the groom would not have even seen the Bride’s face until the veil had been lifted. Talk about surprises.
How the Meaning Changed
Over time the costume and meaning of the veil changed. White did not become the standard until Queen Victoria married Prince Albert in 1840 in a white satin gown, chosen to show off English Honiton lace. White caught on because it signaled wealth. It was expensive, hard to clean, and could rarely be worn again, so only well off families could manage it.
The link between white and purity came later, as a reinterpretation of a fashion that was already established. Before 1840, blue was the color more often associated with purity and fidelity. The white veil followed the white dress, and over the last century the veil has shifted again, from a symbol of modesty to simply a beautiful part of the outfit.
Who Lifts the Veil, and When?
Today, lifting the veil can be done a couple of ways. First, is for the father to lift the veil as he presents his daughter to the groom. Second, is after the vows, right before the kiss, the groom lifts the veil. If the bride takes the initiative in lifting it, thereby presenting herself to him, she is showing more independence. You have options today.
| Option | When it happens | Why couples pick it |
|---|---|---|
| Father lifts it | At the end of the aisle, as he presents the bride | Keeps the hand-off moment in the photos and frees the couple to face each other |
| Partner lifts it | After the vows, right before the kiss | The traditional reveal, and the one most guests expect |
| Bride lifts it herself | Either moment | A deliberate statement of independence |
| No blusher at all | Veil is worn back from the start | Nothing to lift, clear sightlines for photos, less to manage in wind |
It is still considered bad luck for the bride to be seen by the groom before the ceremony. That is a superstition rather than a rule, and plenty of couples now do a first look before the ceremony so they get their private moment and a longer window for photos.
A shoulder length veil and a beaded edge veil, both at Saguaro Buttes.
Common Veil Lengths
Veil names describe where the veil ends. These are the lengths you will hear most often when shopping:
- Blusher. A short layer worn over the face, lifted during the ceremony. It can be part of a longer veil.
- Shoulder or elbow. Light and easy to wear, and the simplest choice for an outdoor ceremony.
- Fingertip. Ends around the fingertips. The most popular all purpose length.
- Chapel and cathedral. Pools on the floor behind the dress. Dramatic in photos, and the most affected by wind.
No veil is required. Many brides wear a hair comb, a flower, or nothing at all, and some wear the veil for the ceremony and take it off for the reception.
Outdoor Ceremonies
Outdoor wedding ceremonies may present a small challenge with the veil, wind can cause them to blow around being distracting, especially if it blows in the grooms face. I usually ask the maid of honor to hold it from blowing, or to secure it some way. This usually takes care of the problem.
A few practical notes for a desert ceremony. Pin the veil with several combs or bobby pins rather than one, because an afternoon breeze picks up as the ground heats. Shorter veils sit still, while chapel and cathedral lengths move the most. If you want the dramatic windswept photos, save the long veil for portraits after the ceremony, when your photographer can use the wind instead of fighting it.
Wedding Veil FAQs
Who lifts the bride’s veil?
Traditionally either the bride’s father, when he presents her at the end of the aisle, or her partner after the vows and before the kiss. Many brides lift it themselves. It is entirely the couple’s choice.
When does the groom lift the veil?
After the vows and rings, immediately before the kiss. If the father already lifted it at the aisle, the groom does not lift it again.
What color were ancient wedding veils?
Not white. Greek brides wore saffron yellow and Roman brides wore the flammeum, a deep flame colored yellow that Pliny the Elder compared to an egg yolk.
Does a white veil mean the bride is a virgin?
No. White became the standard after Queen Victoria’s 1840 wedding, and at the time it signaled wealth, because white fabric was costly and hard to keep clean. The purity association was attached later.
Do I have to wear a veil?
No. A veil is optional. Combs, flowers, hairpins, and no accessory at all are all common, and some brides wear a veil for the ceremony only.
Which veil length is best for an outdoor wedding?
Shoulder, elbow, or fingertip lengths handle wind best. Chapel and cathedral veils look spectacular in photos but need pinning and a helping hand outdoors.
Is it bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding?
It is a superstition, not a rule. It dates from arranged marriages, when the families did not want a match called off. Many couples now do a first look before the ceremony.
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If you are planning an outdoor ceremony in Tucson, most Saguaro Buttes wedding packages include a rehearsal with a certified coordinator, which is the right moment to settle who lifts your veil and when. You can browse our wedding packages or see real ceremonies in our photo gallery.
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