Bridezillas are a breed of engaged women who make unfair demands of their friends, family and those involved in the planning and creation of “their day.” They break the rules of etiquette to insure that they are noticed and recognized as the bride-to-be from the second they are engaged until the day after the honeymoon when reality slaps them upside the face. It’s hard to climb down from a pedestal like that with their dignity in tact and their friends and family still there for them. The vendors won’t really care, after the wedding is over, they will mostly be grateful for the Bridezilla tax they collected. And don’t think I am kidding. Bridezillas also loose money in ways they don’t even comprehend.Author and etiquette expert Gail Dunson, who goes by pen name, Noe Spaemme, has written a book about this scary breed of brides and she’s got some advice for the engaged on how to avoid becoming a Bridezilla.The following are some of Dunson’s tips on taming your inner Bridezilla:
Remember to say thank you and cultivate an attitude of gratefulness. Avoid talking about nothing but the wedding from the time you are engaged. It will bore people and you’ll lose friends. Leave a little suspense for the wedding! Don’t tell everyone what your dress looks like. Keep a little mystery. Plan appropriately for receptions, and do not make guests pay for drinks or dinner or anything else. If you can’t afford a sit-down dinner, don’t have an evening wedding. Don’t plan over-the-top weddings and expect other people to pay for it.
Here is her best advice on getting out of the clutches of a Bridezilla:
“Think of it as a child in the middle of a storm, having a temper tantrum because she can’t have a lollipop. One of the methods that I recommend is to walk away, because if there is no audience what’s the point? So, if Bridezilla has no audience, who is she going to whine to?”